September 27, 2021
Having a loved one with dementia can be difficult and heartbreaking. Going places and doing everyday activities with someone who is struggling with dementia can present different challenges. Seniors with dementia can benefit greatly from engagement in the community, reminiscing on past hobbies and experiences and finding opportunities to create a sense of purpose. This can be great for their physical and mental health. Eating out is one way for seniors to socialize and be active in the community. Here are a few tips for dining out with a senior who has dementia: Pick the right place Picking the right restaurant is key. Try to choose a restaurant where you know the staff will be kind and helpful. You want to make sure you pick a relaxed environment that will not be too crowded or over stimulating. Familiar places may be a good choice since people with dementia often appreciate the feeling of familiarity and security from a well known location. If the person needs any special accommodations, contact the restaurant to be sure they have handicap accessible options that will meet your needs. After you have tried a few restaurants consider making a list of the best options for future outings to make the selection process easier. Pack appropriately It may seem excessive to pack a bag just for going out to eat. However, you can never be too prepared. Pack things such as; a few old photos for reminiscing, an activity book or other items that can help to occupy the individual in case service is slow, a sweater in case the restaurant has a draft, hand wipes or maybe a favorite cup or utensil. Take anything that you know will help to make them feel comfortable and allow the meal to go by with ease. Go at the best time Going on an outing with someone who has dementia can be best prepared for by choosing a time that is typically best for the individual. Things such as being over tired or over hungry can alter the experience. Choose a time that you know will not be too busy so that service will be faster. For example, if you are going out for lunch, aim for an early 11am lunch. This will help you beat the rush and allow you to avoid issues of being over hungry and tired. If you are going out for dinner, aim for 5pm to avoid similar issues. Get to know your loved one’s best and worst times of the day in order to choose the appropriate times for an outing. Make specific requests when needed To best be prepared, you may even want to call before leaving home to assess the situation and make sure that there is no large party or gathering happening at the time you wish to go. If the staff is aware of specific accommodation requests that are helpful, such as seating you in a quieter, more secluded space, dining out may go smoother. Though it may seem overwhelming to dine out with someone struggling with dementia, simple planning measures can be taken to make the experience easy and enjoyable. Be sure to watch for signs that your loved one is getting tired or irritable in order to avoid problems and upset.